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Dear Riley,

My friend and I like the same guy! I want to confess to him to get it off my chest, but I don’t want to hurt my friend by doing that. She doesn’t know I like him either, so there’s that. Should I just not confess for my friend’s sake?

Thanks,

Love Triangle

Dear Love Triangle,

Crushes come and go. You like one person for a week then like a new person for two months (trust me, I know). Friendships, however, last longer. I understand you really like this guy and want him to know how you feel too, but that shouldn’t come at the expense of your friend. Imagine how hurt your friend will be when she finds out you broke her trust, or how hurt you’d be if your friend did that? It would feel pretty awful. Crushes come and go, but good friends are really hard to find, and it is important to be a good friend much more so than trying to get a boyfriend.

If you really like the guy, you could try telling your friend. It’s better to tell her what you are thinking instead of keeping it a secret until it goes away. Make sure to tell your friend how much she means to you, and be respectful if you do tell her.

Carpe Diem,

Riley